San Diego Couple Offer Some Insight Into...

San Diego Couple Offer Some Insight Into an Age-Old Problem

There are book titles, and then there are Killer Book Titles.

The latter are titles destined to lure even an illiterate hermit from his cave.

An example: “Why Men Don’t Get Enough Sex and Women Don’t Get Enough Love,” by La Jolla psychologist Jonathan Kramer and his wife, Diane Dunaway, director/founder of the National Women’s Conference at San Diego State University.

“Why” is just out in paperback, and Kramer and Dunaway are off again on a media tour.

If this is Tuesday, this must be Oprah, or Sally, or Donahue, or a Miami television show or a call-in radio show in Indianapolis.

They taped Geraldo last week.

Kramer asked Geraldo how good his sex life is. You’ll have to wait until it airs April 25 to hear the answer.

I caught up to Kramer and Dunaway at the U.S. Grant Hotel in downtown San Diego (9 to 9:45 a.m., Friday), where we spent a delightful time discussing vaginas, romance, frustrated career women and bear-pawed males.

The book is being translated into Hebrew, Spanish and French. So much mediocre coitus, so little time.

The Kramer-Dunaway thesis is that the casualty figures from the battle of the sexes are horrific: a divorce rate at 50%, another 30% of unions suspended in “marital coma.”

They urge the male to slow down and try a little tenderness (isn’t that the title of a few hundred songs?) and the female to realize that males are not inherently evil, just preprogrammed with a lot of me-Tarzan stuff.

As fate would have it, a good example of the “intimate warrior” that Kramer and Dunaway espouse is now among us: Gen. H. Norman Schwarzkopf.

“Nobody would call him a wimp,” Dunaway said.

“He’s strong, but he’s still able to express feelings,” Kramer said. “He was able to talk about his fears. He’s found a balance between heart and head.”

He looks darling in that camouflage outfit, too, but I suppose that’s a different story.

Betty, Betty, Betty . . .

Items with attitude.

* Betty abroad.

The story in Ladies’ Home Journal about the Betty Broderick murder case has been reprinted in splashy fashion in a London magazine, complete with side-by-side pictures of Dan and Betty’s wedding and Dan and Linda’s wedding.

* More Betty.

Susan Lehman, a writer for Mirabella, the new women’s magazine dealing with culture, crime and celebrity, is in San Diego doing research for a Betty piece this summer.

Despite the avalanche of coverage, she says the pro-Betty and pro-Dan factions are more than willing to talk.

* Yes, there is actually a guy handing out small cards in downtown San Diego.

On the outside: “Jesus Loves You.” On the inside: “But Everybody Else Thinks You’re a (Expletive).”

* The gizmos that made two-way TV communication possible between the space shuttle Atlantis and Earth-bound ham radio operators were made by a San Diego company: Robot Technology.

* Liz Smith, The Times’ new gossip columnist, reported last week that Vanity Fair will have a 14-page spread by author James Spada on Peter Lawford’s relationship with Marilyn Monroe.

Here’s what she missed: Spada also has a book out soon on Lawford, “The Man Who Kept the Secrets.”

The cover picture, a shot of Lawford and his Hollywood Rat Pack pals, was taken by San Diegan Don Pack in 1958. Pack was a struggling Hollywood photographer back then.

* The Locals Only movement seems to be spreading. Ocean Beach bumper sticker: “U.S. Out of O.B.”

Muscle Flexing

Further proof that politics is a blood sport.

The day after San Diego City Councilwoman Linda Bernhardt was trounced, an in-your-face sign appeared in the office window of archrival Councilman Bruce Henderson:

“Don’t Mess With Clairemont.”

Explanation: Henderson supporter Mike Pallamary lives in Clairemont. He became a leader in the Bernhardt recall movement after she voted to slice up Clairemont in redistricting.