COMMITMENTS : How to Guard Against Bullies

How do we bully-proof our lives? By ignoring the anger and working toward a compromise, says psychologist Leonard Felder. Sounds easier said than done.

Felder and other experts offer these tips:

* Make eye contact.

* Never give the bully an emotional payoff.

* Stay calm, but be assertive. Tell the bully how you feel. Have something prepared to say.

* Teach children to strengthen their friendships, make new friends and stick with their buddies.

* Model appropriate behavior in the office and at home.

* Document everything.

* Inform authorities.