Marriage Proposal

As to the merits of postponing marriage until our identity-forging 20s are over (“Bearded-Lady Saint Offers Comfort to a Generation in Waiting,” Commentary, May 28), I can only say this: The more “forged” our identities are, the more difficult it is for us to endure the many compromises it takes to be in a successful marriage. While waiting until oats are sown and hearts are more mature is a good thing, those who wait too long will also discover that the odds of finding an acceptable, undivorced (baggage-free) mate are greatly reduced.

Like most things, the truth probably lies in the middle: If 20 is too young and 35 too old, perhaps the “right” age to marry is 27. Quick, someone throw a few million dollars at some university to study this.

Alex Miller

Calabasas