Tragic loss of life unites community

For the second time in four years, the Estancia High School football

program has suffered a tragic, unexpected loss.

First, Matt Colby died in September 2001 after a football game

during his senior year at Costa Mesa High School, where he had

transferred after playing for three years at Estancia.

Now, another Estancia player and former teammate of Colby, Brian

“Bubba” Kapko, has died too early, too soon. The 19-year-old died early Sunday in a car accident.

He was the only one to lose his life in the crash.

Friends and family all describe Kapko in ways that make you wish

you’d known him. There was his infectious laugh and sense of humor.

His ability to make friends with just about anyone. The hugs -- big

hugs -- from his 5-foot-9, 225-pound frame.

No wonder they were unforgettable.

Kapko showed leadership on the football field, where he was

captain and MVP last year. He also showed athletic prowess, piling up

a career best 160 yards as a fullback in one game while also playing

linebacker.

He also showed leadership on campus as a member of the student

government.

He was the person, one friend said, “who brought everybody

together.”

Sadly, now, Kapko is bringing people together to mourn his loss.

But, already, you are seeing people react in ways that you have to

figure Kapko would have approved of -- if not led himself, given the

chance.

People who don’t get along have joined arms while remembering

their friend. And there is a memorial fund, put together by former

Costa Mesa City Councilman Mike Scheafer, who knew Kapko for years.

“This kid’s spirit cannot die,” Scheafer told the Pilot. “It has

to live on.”

Judging from these past few days, his spirit clearly lives on in

those who knew him.