SPIRITUAL GUIDANCE:Early meditation sets the tone for your day

As a college student, I consulted an elderly Catholic Cenacle sister concerning my questions about life. After a few weeks, she pointed out that if I were not willing to spend time each day in prayer or meditation, she would not continue to schedule appointments with me. Her mission was not to chat or advise, but to assist people in developing their spiritual lives. This teaching that meditation is essential has guided my life.

In my work as a pastoral counselor, my clients often seek to develop a meaningful, spiritual path as to deal with stress, family problems, career issues and the universal human concerns. Recalling Sister Dorothea’s words and drawing upon my own experience, I recommend beginning with a five-minute meditation that can be done over coffee, in bed or after the treadmill. It is a great way to start the day.

The first step is to take a few moments to focus on “the big picture.” Protestant theologian Paul Tillich described this as each person’s “ultimate concern.” For some it is God, and for others it is being a good parent or spouse, or being a person of kindness and peace. For Zen Buddhists, it is the realization of True Self, which is expressed in wisdom and compassion. Aspiration grows and changes, so we can begin with any glimmers we have of our “best self.” It takes time and work for the meaning of our life to become clearer.

The next step is to relate the day’s activities, large or small, to the big picture. Awareness of our purpose or commitment should affect our choices and behaviors all through the day. It helps to visualize some of the upcoming activities and people, with special attention to difficult situations. Thirdly, spend a few minutes just being still and placing attention on the breath rather than thinking. Finally, at the end of the day or the following morning, make note of shortcomings as well as improvements. There is a quiet satisfaction in seeing gradual progress.

It takes courage and perseverance to look closely at our lives on a regular basis. Being alone, still and quiet are becoming lost arts in our society.