Spiritual Guidance:

When I entered into this “exercise,” I had a specific impression. I felt that the word “tolerance” in reference to my work in the interfaith community was somewhat less than I desired. Relative to my faith, I don’t want to be merely tolerated. I want, instead, to be understood and respected.

However, in my research and discussion with others, I have come to understand that tolerance is a deeper concept. We need both tolerance and intolerance. We should be intolerant of inappropriate behavior. In fact, the recognition of what is inappropriate should be a part of our learning process. We, especially in Orange County, are a part of a widely diversified society requiring interaction between people of different faiths and cultural backgrounds.

Toleration of people who are different from us might be considered just the beginning of a journey, preceding understanding, respect, acceptance — and love. If we use “tolerance” to mean “endure,” “put up with,” “suffer,” then it is not a very constructive basis for building interfaith relationships. At the same time, it does not, or should not, mean enduring evil without resistance. We should be intolerant of any infringement of the agency of others by the use of illegitimate power or criminal behavior.

On the positive side, tolerance can imply such active terms as “reaching out,” “engaging,” “offering help or support,” “expressing appreciation” and “seeking to understand.” This world would be a more wonderful place if everyone lived the precepts of their faith, and we should work to lessen the tensions and antipathy that often accompany our interactions with those of different religious traditions.

TOM THORKELSON is the director of Interfaith Relations for Orange County at The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.